E73: Self-Sabotage and The Yearning to Belong

We can really never truly feel a sense of belonging if we are constantly betraying ourselves. You might have heard of the term self-sabotage and wondered what that even means. Well, it’s actually the same thing as betraying yourself. And part of that self-sabotage is having that feeling that you’re not worthy of anything. You’re not worthy of being loved or worthy of loving yourself. You can mask the pain with all the substances and relationships you have, but that will never go away unless you face it head-on. Don’t come looking for the solution outside when all the answers you need are right inside of you. You are worthy of loving yourself. You are worthy of being loved. You are enough. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Your self-awareness journey is your birthright Looking into the ways we’re sabotaging ourselves Our responsibility to take care of one another Episode Highlights: [02:43] How to Find a Sense of Belonging Some people might say emotions shouldn’t be in the workplace. But then as leaders, what are we running from? Finding a self of belonging is everybody’s work. And in order to do that, you have to find ways to develop self-awareness and practice vulnerability as a leader. If you’re sabotaging or betraying yourself, there’s that feeling that you’re not worthy of anything. And that you don’t even have the right to be vulnerable. But this is everyone’s responsibility, not just yours. It is our responsibility to take care of one another. And the only way to truly do that authentically is to be vulnerable with ourselves. Look at the things you might be running from and ways in which you are sabotaging and betraying your own sense of belonging. It takes time, it takes work, and it takes support. But you can definitely start this journey of silencing self-sabotage by reaching out to others who might also be silencing their own selves through their own self-sabotage.