can we love patriarchal men?

Can we love patriarchal men?Can we do the work of love - bell hooks style - with men who are unconsciously upholding the patriarchy?Once, I would have thought this question deserved an obvious “no”.But through loving patriarchal men, I realise the truth is a little bit more complex (and heartbreaking).This is an episode for anyone, who has (in any capacity), desires to do the work of loving and caring for men.