Losing Yourself In Relationships

I was that gal who morphed into what my partner did, ate, who be hung out with and how he lived. All my ways of being went “bye bye” because of a belief I held true that went something like this - “If you don’t do what they want to do, they’ll break up with you. You’ll appear difficult, you’ll be a drainer and that’s not how to keep a boyfriend. So just put your shit aside Ms John!” That led me to planet LOST! and it took months (sometimes years) to retrieve my lost self and put it all back ...