You Don't "HAVE TO" Do Anything

Part of the beauty of being an adult is that you get to make decisions for yourself. An adult brain has abilities that a child’s brain doesn’t, like being able to think about our thinking. As adults, we get to use this ability to our advantage, or disadvantage, depending on which way we approach it. When we get stuck thinking that we “have to” do things, it can trigger us to feel quite terrible. This shows up in marriage as well. We think we “have to” be a good sp...