How to Speak Up: Assertiveness, Boundaries, and the Beauty of Anger, with Cara Tuttle

“Anger is telling us something. It's often telling us that something isn't right or that a boundary is being violated”. Cara Tuttle is a lawyer, consultant, and educator focused on addressing sexual assault and harassment in higher education, and she wants us to explore our anger as a key tool in assertiveness training.  After years of working on a university campus, Cara found that assertiveness was a major struggle for women of all ages, and that has a lot to do with how women have been raised, and how complicated anger can be for women in particular. As Cara explains, “a lot of the women [I work with] have been raised to be well behaved. They've been raised to be pleasant, which delays them in asserting their boundaries.”In this episode, Cara talks about her important book Drowning In Timidity: Women, Politeness, and the Power of Assertive Living, that she wrote to address the questions she heard from women over and over about how to speak up for themselves. Plus, we do a deep dive into anger, assertiveness and boundaries, to explore why anger is a good thing and why it’s so complicated for women; the small things you can do to create big change; and we even talk about the life-changing power of quality sexual education. About Cara TuttleCara Tuttle is a speaker, author, consultant, and activist-minded educator with over twenty years' experience working in higher education.  Cara is the author of Drowning in Timidity: Women, Politeness, and the Power of Assertive Living and has contributed chapters to various books and publications, including The Future Female Leader: Preparing Girls and Women to Lead the World, The Female Code: A Woman's Book for Empowerment and Confidence, The Professional Woman: Pivoting to the New Normal, and Raising Daughters:Raising Healthy Children in an Unhealthy World.Connect with CaraFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/102113045263870Linked In  https://www.linkedin.com/in/caratuttlebellInstagram https://www.instagram.com/carajtuttle Threads https://www.threads.net/@carajtuttle Website:  https://caratuttlebell.comwww.drowningintimidity.comDrowning in Timidity on AmazonAbout The ShowThe Breakout is the hit podcast hosted by human resources and change experts Dr. Keri Ohlrich and Kelly Guenther. The founders of Abbracci Group, a results-driven coaching, HR Management and consulting firm, Keri and Kelly are laser-focused on getting the best out of people. They launched The Breakout in early 2023 to find the best stories and advice on busting boundaries and making change, and since then the show has charted #1 in self-improvement, #1 in education, and #7 in all podcasts.Join Keri and Kelly on The Breakout as they get advice and insights from change experts, and learn from people who have really done it how you can dive into personal growth, increase self confidence, and move your life into bold new territory.Each episode comes with lessons on living courageously, with topics on self-help, leadership, personal development, building success, setting personal boundaries, growing your confidence, overcoming self doubt, and knowing your self worth. From huge transformations to quiet shifts, The Breakout highlights why every change matters.At Abbracci Group, Keri and Kelly offer a four-step coaching process to help you increase your self-awareness, break out of expectations, and live life on your terms.  Learn more at abbraccigroup.com.Keri and Kelly’s new book Whatever the Hell You Want – An Escape Plan to Break Out of Life’s Little Boxes and Live Free From Expectations, will be out October 2024 and is available for pre-order now! Dr. Keri Ohlrich’s book The Way of the HR Warrior is available now.Connect with the Hostshttps://www.instagram.com/thebreakoutpod/https://abbraccigroup.com/podcast/https://www.facebook.com/thebreakoutpodcast/https://www.linkedin.com/company/abbraccigroup/https://www.youtube.com/@thebreakoutpodcast