178. Stop Trying to Figure Things Out – Feel Them Instead With Amy Wong

Amy Eliza Wong is the Founder of Always on Purpose. The name tells you everything you need to know. If you've ever wondered how you ended up where you ended up, or at a job that used to make your socks roll up and down now makes you want to crawl into bed and not come out, Amy has answers.   This episode is like two girlfriends who picked up the phone and started talking about how to cause magic in life, how to get unstuck, why women find themselves in closets and laundry rooms just crying, asking, "What has happened to my life?"   Since Amy was very young, she says she's always been fascinated by consciousness studies and big conversations like Who are we? Why are we here? What does it mean to be alive?   She also loves math and later studied mathematics at UC Berkeley. This led her to teach and facilitate roles.   "What was so enthralling to me was to listen for what it was. They didn't know that they didn't know because it wasn't a matter of not knowing the thing. It was really a matter of not knowing what they didn't know, and that kept them from asking the right questions," says Amy.   After working for ten years in tech, she had a massive breakthrough when her son was born.   "I was hit with this extremely significant and very powerful insight that literally reverberated through my body that I was going about it all wrong," says Amy. "And the insight that hit me that changed me in a moment was: it's not about figuring it out; it's about feeling it out. The wisdom of that just completely changed all aspects of my being."   Amy says she realized she'd been chasing a strategy laid out for her; she wasn't fulfilled. She went back to school and got her masters in transpersonal psychology. She said the similarity between psychology and math is the search for truth, and that's when coaching found her.   Over the thousands of conversations Amy has had, she says it became clear that some fundamental themes are universal in how we hold ourselves back. Ones that go beyond habits of action, like saying you're going to work but not.   "Our soul knows what we are meant to do; the thing that gets in the way is our head," says Amy.   She says people think they want all the goals they set, all their aspirations, whether it's more money, a bigger job, a bigger house, or whatever. But it's not for the thing. What they want is the feeling we think we would have as a result of the thing.   If they have yet to really focus on what they want to feel when they take the job, it entirely conflicts with what they want to feel. So their life looks great on paper, but now they're miserable.   Amy's path to coaching saw her follow what she calls inspired thoughts and just start doing. She says there's a very big difference between doubt and self-doubt. Her take is that doubt is healthy, but self-doubt is destruction.   Healthy doubt is discerning. It doesn't judge but assesses. It asks, "Do I know this? Is there enough here for me to go forth and do what I intend to do? Is my understanding full?" For example, she knows if someone asked her to perform heart surgery, she would say no. That's healthy doubt. But self-doubt might influence her ability to learn how to do it. Would it take a while? Sure. But self-doubt questions someone's inherent capability.   That's the difference. It's to objectively look at what's known and what's not. What's missing? What's there, and what needs to be there? Versus, is there something wrong with me? Is there something lacking?   Amy reminds people that we are all born with this ability to feel; some might just need to strengthen this muscle.   Let's get to it!   ===== Free Gift for Listeners ===== 15% off Amy’s new book: https://www.porchlightbooks.com/product/living-on-purpose-five-deliberate-choices-to-realize-fulfillment-and-joy--amy-eliza-wong/isbn/9781956072020 Practice checking in with your feelings: https://amyelizawong.superphone.io/f/RbD8hOvr ===== Connect with Amy Wong ===== Website: https://www.alwaysonpurpose.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyelizawong/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyelizawong/  Other Game On Girlfriend podcast episodes you might want to check out:  5 Tips to Create an Environment for Abundance  https://sarahwalton.com/abundant-environment/  Why Zigzagging Your Path Means More Success https://sarahwalton.com/susan/  Coaching Session: When You Need An Immediate Breakthrough  https://sarahwalton.com/coaching-limiting-beliefs-breakthrough/ How Can I Feel Worthy? https://sarahwalton.com/feel-worthy/ Committing Until It Takes with Kimberly Spencer  https://sarahwalton.com/business-commitment/  You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton   Thank you so much for listening. 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