134. The Psychology of Style with Lauren Messiah

This episode is a long time coming – I’m sitting down with the catalyst of the Life Stylist podcast and my partner in crime at the School of Style, Lauren Messiah. (Oh... and we also dated for exactly five years.)As a self-described “perpetual not-fitter-inner,” Lauren struggles to find a tribe of her own – but she’s always had style, her one constant.If you dress the right way, you can fit in anywhere... but if you really own it, you can carve out your own space. That’s exactly what Lauren does, and that’s what makes her such an incredible entrepreneur.As a personal stylist, Lauren is dedicated to helping women fundamentally change their relationship with clothing so that they can take out the BS and completely transform themselves, from the outside in. What does your wardrobe communicate to other people? Hell, what does it communicate to yourself? How does our style affect our identity? Our energy?It’s not about being cute or sexy – it’s about getting what you want and living your best life!–Luke Topics Discussed In This Episode: How Lauren kicked my ass and got me to start the podcast Our five-year relationship and multiple attempts at couples therapy (including a stay at the Onsite Workshops) How we’ve evolved since ending our relationship Lauren’s first fashion memory Being a perpetual not-fitter-inner Growing up multiracial & feeling like you don’t have a tribe Using style to carve out her own space Being a voice for people who feel misunderstood Going to fashion school and then not becoming a designer Inadequacies in education Moving from the east coast to the west coast Becoming a stylist and finding the School of Style Blogging about fashion in 2005 Why Lauren stopped celebrity styling & started personal styling Being a servant VS serving Style being a huge pain point for so many people How a job with Nickelodeon changed Lauren’s life trajectory Clothing as a way of communicating your values Lauren’s evolving brand & relationship with style Living your best life Putting yourself in badass mode Being the Oprah of fashion The science of getting dressed How men can represent their true self on the outside Lauren’s current self-help journey   More about this episode.Watch it on YouTube THIS SHOW IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ORGANIFI. This product has changed the green juice game for me. A green powdered superfood that comes in portable packets perfect for...