How Leaders Deceive Themselves and How to Overcome It with Victoria Trammel

Have you ever considered that your best intentions as a leader can lead to self-deception and undermine your effectiveness? Kevin speaks with Victoria Trammel about how self-deception ties to our identity as leaders. Self-deception leads to what an inward mindset—an excessive and unhealthy self-focus that leads us to see ourselves and others in altered ways. She explains how leaders can act in ways that contradict their stated values, denying their team members growth and opportunity. Victoria believes, as leaders, we need to stay curious and see our team as individuals with different needs and goals. Listen For 00:00 Introduction 03:27 The Uniqueness of Leadership Books 05:32 What Makes "Leadership and Self-Deception" Successful 07:12 The Core Idea: Self-Deception 09:09 Examples of Self-Deception in Leadership 11:01 Connection Between Self-Deception and Identity 13:13 The Role of Leadership Assessments and Identity 15:15 The Relationship to Relationships in Leadership 17:17 Practical Steps to Recognize and Address Self-Deception 19:57 Feedback and Vulnerability in Leadership 21:00 The Ripple Effect of Leadership 22:45 Advice for Leaders: Start with Curiosity 24:33 How to Influence as a Leader 26:15 What Victoria Does for Fun 27:13 What Victoria Is Reading Now 28:24 Closing Thoughts and Resources Meet Victoria Victoria's Story: Victoria Trammel is a co-author of Leadership and Self-Deception: the Secret to Transforming Relationships and Unleashing Results, now in its 4th edition. She is a seasoned facilitator and leadership consultant who brings almost two decades of experience supporting the Intelligence Community to her work with Arbinger. She began her career in joint counterterrorism operations. In subsequent positions, Victoria continued to embrace opportunities for learning and people development through leadership roles across the Intelligence Community from small niche operational programs to enterprise-wide software development programs to corporate culture initiatives. Most recently as a program manager of 65 employees at Leidos, Victoria had the opportunity to establish and develop her program leadership team under the guidance and coaching of the Arbinger Institute. Victoria has a beautiful, blended family of 6 that enjoys planning vacations around experiencing different cultures through the power of food. She is fluent in French and speaks a couple other languages, though most of her vocabulary revolves around eating. https://web.facebook.com/arbingerinstitute https://twitter.com/Arbinger https://arbinger.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/arbinger-institute Book Recommendations Leadership and Self-Deception, Fourth Edition: The Secret to Transforming Relationships and Unleashing Results by The Arbinger Institute  Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff Like this? The Outward Mindset with Jim Ferrell The Mindsets and Habitsets of Leadership with Darrin Gray The Mindsets That Separate the Best Leaders with Vikram Malhotra Join Our Community If you want to view our live podcast episodes, hear about new releases, or chat with others who enjoy this podcast join one of our communities below. Join the Facebook Group Join the LinkedIn Group   Leave a Review If you liked this conversation, we’d be thrilled if you’d let others know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. Here’s a quick guide for posting a review. Review on Apple: https://remarkablepodcast.com/itunes    Podcast Better! Sign up with Libsyn and get up to 2 months free! Use promo code: RLP