337 Every Day Is A New Beginning | December 2017 Sunday Week 2

Smiling Sundays -#337 December 3 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast Every Day Is A New Beginning Sometimes it may seem like all I do on my podcast is complain about complaining. When you’re bombarded by the unnecessary suffering of people, it can get tiring upon someone's soul. And the reason I say unnecessary, is because a lot of complaining is about things that people have control over. And maybe that’s really a trick statement because people may think I’m talking about controlling or changing the situation when I’m really talking about determining what your response is to an event. But how can you change someone’s mind when they don’t even know they have an option? I mean sure, they know they’re in control, at least they think they do. But are we truly in control when we allow a situation to determine how we feel? I think it’s so easy to complain because we are so short-sighted. We see a problem and see it as the end of the world…rather than just a process of life. If you were to look at the wholeness of your life and to recall all the problems…was there not a time you got over the problem? And if you didn’t get over the problem, was that not a personal choice you made…not an absolute? It may have seemed unconscious…but it still was a choice. And this is where we would rather place the blame on a scapegoat. This is where we would like to defer our decisions of moving on and becoming better…into focusing on playing the victim of the situation. We tell a silent lie in our mind and it spreads like weeds…and that thought is, “I am weak and not in control of how I decide to feel, and that I’m not in control of the choices I make—the event does that.” We become robots thinking the external manifests who we are. But if you were to really think about it, the internal decides how we sculpt our external. And believe me, I know personally how it’s easier to say well those people have something I don’t, those people are stronger than me, those people are more successful than me, or some people have all the luck while I’m left holding an empty bag. But it’s never been about luck, it’s been about seeing control of ourselves in a variable and uncertain world. And maybe that’s where most of the complaining comes from…it comes from us thinking that until we can be certain…100% certain about an outcome…we will then be anxious about it. It’s the lie that we need to know the outcome, that we need to be in control of it…because if it doesn’t come out as we planned…then our lives will be in certain sets of chaos and lack of control. And so we come back to the understanding that we are being too short-sighted.  We are too close to the problem to see the end of it…We look too close to our lives forgetting that every problem we’ve ever faced had some sort of conclusion. We had the choice to see it as a defeat or something to overcome…and whatever we decided still came out the same…we made it past that problem somehow. Even if you held onto the problem and didn’t solve it…you still did solve something—you decided to move forward with the problem clinging to you. And sometimes it seems easier to blame the problem on why we can’t be or do what we want, instead of making a commitment to be who we want…regardless of any problems.  So it’s my hope that you look beyond your complaining and misfortune, to see the beautiful horizon in the moment and the great chances that are ahead for you. As I will remind you that any problem you’ve ever faced seemed like a monster on the surface, but when you dug deeper to face and unravel it…you found a beautiful treasure in the struggle of overcoming it. Today’s Personal Commitment:If today was a new beginning, how would it start for you? We never really start over as we hold onto the emotions that plague us, the problems that we’re focusing on, and the continual wearing down and compounding of troubling days we’ve experienced. Start your morning off by resetting yourself. Reset the focus on the problems, reset the meter on keeping score of all the complications in your life, and reset the chances you are taking on living this day as a beautiful gift given to you. And one reason we never start over, is we don’t go to sleep efficiently. We go to sleep worrying about all we have to do, or all that’s been building upon us. So this week, go to bed differently. One way, is you could write down the things you are worried about and see if you come to a solution on how you can solve them.  If some problems are too big and you are over worrying about them, then cut up a piece of paper in as many sections as you need and write a problem on one of the sectioned sheets…crumple it up and throw it in the wastepaper basket. And continue this exercise with how many problems you need to rid yourself of. This is actually a very powerful exercise as you are connecting the physical to the mental and emotional. You are physical saying to your mind and emotions I am throwing you away…and  I won’t allow you to clutter my life. So start your night off differently by refocusing how you look at problems, so you sleep better and then wake up less stressed. And then work on starting your morning, as if it’s a new beginning to enjoy the beautiful gifts that you’ve been given to you by having one more day. Every Day Is A New Beginning     Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247     Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide